During the study, a group of men was split into groups and shown women's faces with no descriptors. Another group was shown the same faces but also told about their personality i. The findings indicated that the standards of beauty for the second group of men were swayed by the positive descriptors regardless of their personalities.
So, it may be that those who are cold or unkind aren't drawn to nice partners because they are opposite but because we as humans are attracted to kindness. A study had similar results with body types. During the experiment, men were separated into two separate groups.
One group was provided only pictures of female bodies but no other non-identifying information. The second set of men were provided with positive personality information for some of the photos they viewed and negative for others. The first group presented a very narrow view of which body types were considered attractive. The second group's perception was broadened by the information of who was kind and who wasn't, leading them to identify a greater variety of body types as appealing.
But more than personality, there's something else that attracts us to our future spouses and its right under your nose. So much scientific research focuses on how we choose our partners, but what if we don't "choose" at all, at least not consciously. This could be a whole article in itself since there is so much recent research on the topic of scent attraction. Think of it this scenario: You're at a bar or for bookworms, a library and the hot guy sitting across from you catches your eye.
You start chatting and feel instant chemistry. What you don't realize is that invisible forces are at work in unusual places. Before you know it, you're in love at "first smell. The search for human pheromones has gone on for many years. A pheromone is a chemical secreted in sweat. Scientists have long thought that pheromones played a role in sexual attraction and now there is scientific evidence.
In one study, women judged men's attractiveness through smelling their t-shirts and in another, men were able to sense a woman's fertility through smell. The participants were attracted to various scents, suggesting that beauty truly is "in the eye of the beholder". We all know at least one boyfriend and girlfriend, or husband and wife, that seem to be opposites. And what about those who date people that are wrong for them, over and over again?
These types of relationships are different from the ones that happen organically. Sometimes, people who are seeking relationships have formed trauma bonds, which affects the way one approaches relationships. These people may struggle with self-esteem, confidence, and healthy relationship boundaries. Science suggests that they are making decisions based on "attractions of deprivation. Are introverts a perfect match for extroverts and vice versa?
What about partiers and homebodies? Night owls and early risers? If you were to take this literally, it would mean that you and your S. But, in reality, you probably have more in common than you think. Research backs this up. One study published in the journal Psychological Science analyzed the digital footprints people left on Facebook specifically the stuff that they liked, as well as the things they posted about and found that most people interact with others that are pretty similar to them—online, at least.
Another study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology , took info from 1, couples, friends, and acquaintances and surveyed them on their values, attitudes, and personality traits. The researchers found that these people had a whopping 86 percent similarity on all the factors.
That said, you and your partner can still be super different when it comes to stuff like your tastes in music, the kind of food you like to eat, what kind of clothes you like to wear, and a slew of other things—and that can be really, really sexy. But in reality, despite those few oppositional traits, you're probably more alike than you realize. When you think of you and your partner as opposites, you probably focus on more obvious things, like clothes and what you like to do in your off-hours.
You have to factor in stuff like your overall attitudes, preferences, values, beliefs, and communication styles, Cilona says—and odds are, you match up on at least some of those things. The clear winner is homogamy. Since the s, social scientists have conducted over studies to determine whether similarity in terms of attitudes , personality traits , outside interests , values and other characteristics leads to attraction.
They found an irrefutable association between being similar to and being interested in the other person. In other words, there is clear and convincing evidence that birds of a feather flock together. For human beings, the attractiveness of similarity is so strong that it is found across cultures. Because similarity is associated with attraction, it makes sense that individuals in committed relationships tend to be alike in many ways. Sometimes this is called assortative mating , although this term is more often used to describe the ways in which people with similar levels of educational attainment, financial means and physical appearance tend to pair up.
Both the homogamy hypothesis and the complementarity hypothesis could be true. So is there scientific support that opposites might attract at least some of the time? Love stories often include people finding partners who seem to have traits that they lack, like a good girl falling for a bad boy. In this way, they appear to complement one another. For example, one spouse might be outgoing and funny while the other is shy and serious.
In fact, one could imagine the friends and relatives of a shy person trying to set them up with an outgoing person to draw the shy one out. The question is whether people actually seek out complementary partners or if that just happens in the movies.
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