But, in this context, the brain works the same way in both adults and children so this information applies to all of us. Ideally, we want everyone to be safe and feel safe as both of these aspects of safety, combined with a sense of belonging, will provide the best foundation from which to thrive.
So, if we think about thriving as being on a continuum from Surviving — just being alive — to Thriving — being free to embrace all life has to offer — then Safe and Belong could be considered essential ingredients for moving from one end to the other You can read our thoughts on what it means to thrive here.
One way to help regain a sense of feeling safe is to look for choices. Often the opportunity to make small choices in a situation where we have little overall control can help. For example, if a child moves to a new family, the carer could ask them what meals they like to eat or let them choose their snack. It might be as simple as asking who they would like to accompany them as they leave one home and move to the next.
Small warning: Too much choice can actually increase feelings of being unsafe! Keep choices clear and within a framework of limited options. For vulnerable people, generally the fewer options the better.
Instead of saying what would you like to do today, you could ask I was wondering about going to the park, visiting Grandma or curling up on the couch with some stories — what would you like? It increases my capacity to cope with the situation. My performance and my physical and mental health and probably also my relationships may be affected, too. This one is key. If you or someone you know is feeling unsafe one of the easiest ways to help bring them back towards feeling safe is through connection with a safe person in their life.
Even holding the hand of a stranger reduced the activation compared with being on their own. There is much more to be said — keep an eye out for future posts and an online course coming soon!
And for using an understanding of the brain to develop resilience in the face of depression and difficult life circumstances I highly recommend The Upward Spiral by Alex Korb. Skip to content. Why is safety so important? We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits.
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Every human has emotions. We feel happy some times and mad at other times. We can feel angry, silly, and excited all in the same day! One emotion we often feel without consciously knowing it is the feeling of safety.
Feeling safe is not something we discuss often. For example, when a friend asks "How are you? Yet if you think about it, most of us can say that we feel safe on a fairly regular basis. A Universal Experience Safe can be defined as free from harm or hurt.
So, feeling safe means you do not anticipate either harm or hurt, emotionally or physically. Can you remember a time when you didn't feel safe? Pause for a moment to really remember it.
Maybe you experienced a terrible thunderstorm and the wind was so loud you wondered if there was a tornado coming. Perhaps you witnessed a fight or were threatened in some way. Perhaps you were separated from your friends in a large crowd. When We Feel Unsafe It's likely you're able to recall at least one time in your life when you didn't feel safe. Do you remember what emotions you were experiencing when this happened? Several emotions often compete for attention during traumatic events like this.
When I was feeling unsafe, I was scared and anxious, and my body just froze in place. My heart pounded and my mind was racing to figure out what was going to happen next. Because I was not in control of my body's reaction, panic was closing in. Even now, years later, if I am in situations that remind me of that time, I vividly remember the event. Psychological Safety Matters You are reading this article because you touch the world of "child welfare" in some way.
It is highly probable that you have heard the expression "safety, permanence, and well-being" before. We use these terms to compartmentalize the vision we have for children.
We want them to be safe and free from harm. We want them to have a permanent family who will be there for them for the rest of their lives. We want them to be well --emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially, mentally, and economically. We have made a lot of progress on these goals over the last decade. However, the concept of safety has evolved recently. We have historically thought of safety as simply being free from physical abuse, free from sexual abuse, free from emotional abuse, and free from neglect.
This type of safety is a critical first step on the road to being well. How I came to love myself and challenge the chaos in my head. Depression — An open letter to someone struggling. How to be kind and supportive. How writing saved my life, a journey. My break up with labels. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website.
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Irish Mental Health Charity in Ireland. Please answer yes or no to the following questions. In the past month have you found yourself? Ruminating on the past? Worrying about the future? Found your mind overanalysing what someone meant by a comment they made? Found it hard to focus your attention on the task at hand? Found your to-do list invading your thoughts when in the shower or doing household tasks? Found that you have not been listening to a loved one, a child or a family member?
Felt the pressure of not having enough time to complete all your tasks? Felt your mind wander from the task you are doing to the next task and even the one after that so that you are not focussed on the task at hand? Why can we feel unsafe when there is no threat? How can you develop the habit of being fully present? Article by Fiona Brennan. Fiona Brennan is a Clinical Hypnotherapist with a booked out clinic in Dublin. Every day she has the honour of helping people who are struggling with anxiety, stress and their sense of self-worth.
Building on her success, in she launched her online, five-star rated, hypnotherapy program which now helps people all over the world. Her first book is the best-selling 'The Positive Habit' is published by Ireland's leading non-fiction publishers Gill Books. Fiona is currently writing her second book, which is all about Love and it will be published early next year.
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